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Post by vil on Aug 13, 2009 18:25:25 GMT 8
Got this from another board which is pretty interesting since we've been seeing alot of people in here getting gifts from gf/wife/etc.
How do you get along with your better half when it comes to music? how does her family feel with your taste? how about people who doesnt have a clue what "satanic forcefucked" or "Women are punching bag for my dick" kind of shirts? do you wear them in public?
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Post by Ribcage on Aug 13, 2009 20:20:37 GMT 8
My wife doesn't like it at all up until now but she got the hang of it, She really doesn't care about the whole evil thing with shirts and the artwork and stuff but what she doesn't really understand is the whole financial side of buying records all the time that's what pisses her off she always tells me that i should see a doctor for she thinks its addiction already( I think she's right hehe). A lot of heated debates and arguments ensued all these years just made her realize it was my only passion hehe but as 2008 entered things started to change after that trip she had and she bought me the Metallica LP it was like a peace offering hehe.But being a Father and a husband makes things more challenging financially but im up for the challenge there's no mountain too high as long as you have ropes hehehehe. My in-laws are great. For other people Fuck them hehe
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Post by idp on Aug 13, 2009 21:49:48 GMT 8
I'm fortunate because my wife understands my lifestyle. She doesn't like it, but she respects what I'm into.
Her family asks me why I like this music, and why I'm always in black. I explain my passion for metal by comparing it to movies. I tell them that I like horror movies and that I like music that's about horror too. About always wearing black, I just tell them that I'm comfortable wearing it.
I wear band shirts all the time, except of course for occasions that I need to dress properly, but I usually wear the blasphemous and perverted ones at gigs.
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Post by idp on Aug 13, 2009 22:14:49 GMT 8
My wife doesn't like it at all up until now but she got the hang of it, She really doesn't care about the whole evil thing with shirts and the artwork and stuff but what she doesn't really understand is the whole financial side of buying records all the time that's what pisses her off she always tells me that i should see a doctor for she thinks its addiction already( I think she's right hehe). A lot of heated debates and arguments ensued all these years just made her realize it was my only passion hehe but as 2008 entered things started to change after that trip she had and she bought me the Metallica LP it was like a peace offering hehe.But being a Father and a husband makes things more challenging financially but im up for the challenge there's no mountain too high as long as you have ropes hehehehe. My in-laws are great. For other people Fuck them hehe lol |
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Post by Batdog on Aug 13, 2009 22:16:38 GMT 8
dito sa bahay, kahit madami ako kasama eh wala naman umaangal kahit malakas ako magpatugtog. tutal lagi naman sarado itong kwarto errr... batcave pag nagsounds ako kaya ang dinig sa labas e dagundong lang. problema na nila at ng kapitbahay yun kung gusto nila pakinggan talaga at marinig yung "devil music" blasting from within. honestly, di ko narin talaga kaya makinig ng sobrang malakas ng aggressive music ng matagalan kasi minsan its counter productive, mahirap mag-isip, blah blah.. lalo na sa makalimutin na kagaya ko. kaya yun volume setting tamang sakto lang sa pang background music at di na masyado makakaabala sa iba.
kung sa publiko naman.. fuck people! fuck em all. i dont care what others think. yung mga slogan sa shirts hindi na shocking yan. di hamak na mas weirdo itsura ng mga mall/school/teen punkilitos na nagkalat sa paligid. yun mga may nakasabit na stuffed toy, at may backpack na kabaong. wala na magdadalawang tingin sayo sa panahon ngayon ng dahil sa shirt lang. pwera na lang siguro kung isusuot mo sa simbahan. siguro kung mahilig ka talaga magsimba at magpapansin.
nakakatawa lalo makaenkwentro ng mga taong pag napansin na akala kagaya ka nila ay ewan ko kung ano pumapasok sa utak. kakanta ng kakanta kanilang paboritong "rak" song. magtatambol sa hita. o kaya magkukuwento ng kung ano anong "kametal-an". mag kukwento ng kung ano ano na nalalaman tungkol sa metal at mga kabaklaan laban at sa likod ng kung kani kanino.
not metal related pero madalas ko maranasan iyong pag may nakakasalubong o sinusundan ako/kami na mga ale eh bigla nila yayakapin ng mahigpit yung mga bag nila na para bang natatakot ma-snatch-an. hahaha!
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Post by defector on Aug 13, 2009 22:29:48 GMT 8
dito sa bahay.openminded naman ang mga tao dito.ang reklamo lang nila pag masyadong malakas yung volume pag nagpapatugtog ako.as for the shirts naman same din.pag may bago akong package na galing sa post office gusto agad tignan ng ermats ko kung anong tshirt.pag nakita niya tapos na babalik na niya sakin yung shirt.tatanungin lang ako kung magkano kuha ko.
pag asa labas naman ako.wala pa naman ako nakasalubong na nagbigay sakin ng "the evil eye".pero ok lang sakin kung ganon sila makatingin.im supporting the band that i like.thats all.
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Post by Batdog on Aug 13, 2009 22:30:58 GMT 8
Her family asks me why I like this music, and why I'm always in black. I explain my passion for metal by comparing it to movies. I tell them that I like horror movies and that I like music that's about horror too. parang ganyan din sinasabi ko pag may nag-comment na "satanista ka ba" o "hindi ba pinapasok ng demonyo ang isip mo pag nakikinig ka nyan" sabi ko lang sa kanila para ka lang nanood ng horror o action movie nyan. pag nanood ka ba ng vampire movie nagiging bampira ka? pag nanood ka ba ng action at patayan, gusto mo ring pumatay ng ibang tao? yun naman tungkol sa "demonyo" sa isip.. di ko na kailangan ng panlabas na impluwensya para doon. ;D tatanungin lang ako kung magkano kuha ko. LOL. yun yon eh haha. madalas mas issue na sa kasambahay ngayon yung kung magkano nagastos at hindi ang pagiging satanista. ;D pag asa labas naman ako.wala pa naman ako nakasalubong na nagbigay sakin ng "the evil eye".pero ok lang sakin kung ganon sila makatingin.im supporting the band that i like.thats all. tama. personal pleasure lang. fuck what the others have to say. |
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Post by Ribcage on Aug 13, 2009 22:34:00 GMT 8
^At medyo naging chubby(I got to loose weight also hehe). Naalala ko yung mga tambay smin pag nakakkita ng long hair na lalake sisisgawan nila ng "HOY PARENG RAKERS" hehehe
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Post by defector on Aug 13, 2009 22:34:10 GMT 8
^ahahahaa!may naalala ako dati may nagtanong sakin kung anti-christ ako.kasi nakikinig daw ako ng pang demonyong kanta.sabi ko "hindi,eto kasi lagi kong pinapakinggan,hindi porket nakiking ako ng metal eh anti-christ na ko."
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Post by idp on Aug 13, 2009 22:35:40 GMT 8
dito sa bahay, kahit madami ako kasama eh wala naman umaangal kahit malakas ako magpatugtog. tutal lagi naman sarado itong kwarto errr... batcave pag nagsounds ako kaya ang dinig sa labas e dagundong lang. problema na nila at ng kapitbahay yun kung gusto nila pakinggan talaga at marinig yung "devil music" blasting from within. honestly, di ko narin talaga kaya makinig ng sobrang malakas ng aggressive music ng matagalan kasi minsan its counter productive, mahirap mag-isip, blah blah.. lalo na sa makalimutin na kagaya ko. kaya yun volume setting tamang sakto lang sa pang background music at di na masyado makakaabala sa iba. kung sa publiko naman.. fuck people! fuck em all. i dont care what others think. yung mga slogan sa shirts hindi na shocking yan. di hamak na mas weirdo itsura ng mga mall/school/teen punkilitos na nagkalat sa paligid. yun mga may nakasabit na stuffed toy, at may backpack na kabaong. wala na magdadalawang tingin sayo sa panahon ngayon ng dahil sa shirt lang. pwera na lang siguro kung isusuot mo sa simbahan. siguro kung mahilig ka talaga magsimba at magpapansin. nakakatawa lalo makaenkwentro ng mga taong pag napansin na akala kagaya ka nila ay ewan ko kung ano pumapasok sa utak. kakanta ng kakanta kanilang paboritong "rak" song. magtatambol sa hita. o kaya magkukuwento ng kung ano anong "kametal-an". mag kukwento ng kung ano ano na nalalaman tungkol sa metal at mga kabaklaan laban at sa likod ng kung kani kanino. not metal related pero madalas ko maranasan iyong pag may nakakasalubong o sinusundan ako/kami na mga ale eh bigla nila yayakapin ng mahigpit yung mga bag nila na para bang natatakot ma-snatch-an. hahaha! Yun ang hindi ko nagagawa dito. Hindi ako makapagpatugtog ng malakas. Sa buong buhay ko ngayon lang talaga nagkapakinabang ang headphones sa 'kin. Lalo sa lugar namin, kung magpatugtog mga tao dun eh akala mo lagi may party, kaya lintik lang ang walang ganti kapag ako na ang nagpatugtog, hahaha! Hahaha! O' nga eh, kapag natabi ka sa mga normal na tao akala nila nanakawan ko sila eh. |
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Post by idp on Aug 13, 2009 22:42:32 GMT 8
Her family asks me why I like this music, and why I'm always in black. I explain my passion for metal by comparing it to movies. I tell them that I like horror movies and that I like music that's about horror too. parang ganyan din sinasabi ko pag may nag-comment na "satanista ka ba" o "hindi ba pinapasok ng demonyo ang isip mo pag nakikinig ka nyan" sabi ko lang sa kanila para ka lang nanood ng horror o action movie nyan. pag nanood ka ba ng vampire movie nagiging bampira ka? pag nanood ka ba ng action at patayan, gusto mo ring pumatay ng ibang tao? yun naman tungkol sa "demonyo" sa isip.. di ko na kailangan ng panlabas na impluwensya para doon. ;D Hahaha! Yun ang isang madalas sabihin, baka ma impluwensyahan ka ng demonyo. |
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Post by Ribcage on Aug 13, 2009 22:50:16 GMT 8
^ I remember nung nagboom yung backmasking and stuff sa media dito, salamat kay kabayan noli de castro
nag karoon ng awareness ng ganun sa mga school especially sa mga catholic schools natawa nlng ako ksi it made me realize how stupid some people are hehe.
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Post by eltorrente on Aug 14, 2009 8:44:22 GMT 8
I'm not married, so right now I don't have to worry about wives or in-laws commenting about my taste for metal.
When I was college, I was pretty much one of the few in our circle of friends that listens to metal, so I used to get a lot of jokes from them. Even from some of our female classmates, na-weirdohan sila nung narinig nila akong nakikinig ng Obituary one time. I get the usual 'adik ka ba?', 'satanista ka ba?' crap. But I didn't mind, bahala sila sa buhay nila, hehe.
As for the get-up, I rarely wear metal or rock-related shirts so I usually blend in with the other 'normal' people. I rarely advertise my liking for metal anyway. It's when I do wear this or that shirt, or when they learn that I listen to this or that stuff when I hear those same comments. Like one time in a training, I was wearing a Human Mastication shirt at the time. The trainer looks at me funny, then says to me 'ano yang nasa t-shirt mo, ang sagwa! metal ka siguro...', hehe....
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Post by xxxtian on Aug 14, 2009 9:28:04 GMT 8
Its okay to play my music at my folk's home, just as long as its the appropriate level. I mean even if its Frank Sinatra or The Beatles, if you play them at full blast in the middle of the night I think it would be very irritating for most of us.
Natatawa na lang ako sa comment ng mom ko kung nakikinig ako ng death metal, parati niyang sinasabi na "O, kumakanta na naman si Noel." (Noel Queja is the former vocalist of Brimstone In Fire, my mom knows what he is capable of doing cause on my 18th birthday I invited them over to play at my house to jam.)
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Post by DB on Aug 14, 2009 11:14:58 GMT 8
Early '90s College, I'm wearing my old Slaytanic Wehrmacht shirt and listening to 'Reign in Blood' on my walkman (wala pa 'kong discman noon) on battery powered 3" speakers in the waiting area near the car park.
Born-again Christian College Classmate: "Ba't ka nakikinig nyan, masama yan; di mo ba alam galing sa demonyo yan? Satanista ka ba?"
DB: (being sarcastic, but delivered deadpan) "Oo, satanista ako."
-- I'm not. I'm an atheist. But we don't believe in the existence of Satan either. --
Born-again Christian College Classmate: (color drains from face) "Ah...."
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Post by idp on Aug 14, 2009 15:16:46 GMT 8
Early '90s College, I'm wearing my old Slaytanic Wehrmacht shirt and listening to 'Reign in Blood' on my walkman (wala pa 'kong discman noon) on battery powered 3" speakers in the waiting area near the car park. Born-again Christian College Classmate: "Ba't ka nakikinig nyan, masama yan; di mo ba alam galing sa demonyo yan? Satanista ka ba?" DB: (being sarcastic, but delivered deadpan) "Oo, satanista ako." -- I'm not. I'm an atheist. But we don't believe in the existence of Satan either. -- Born-again Christian College Classmate: (color drains from face) "Ah...." Hahaha! Hindi mo na pinahaba ang interogasyon ha. |
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Post by mastema on Aug 14, 2009 16:19:31 GMT 8
Mom (after looking at my shirts with inverted crosses and shit): "Patawarin tayo ng Diyos!" (sabay sign of the cross lol) Nasanay na rin siya hehe. My folks are very cool when it comes to my music. Concern lang nila, tulad ng sinabi ni Ribcage, nagiging adik na ako sa pagbili ng metal stuff. "Pag-ipunan mo naman sweldo mo! Paano pag magka-emergency ang pamilya?", they would say.  Rakista friend: "Pare, lupit ng shirt mo! Saan mo naiskor?" It goes without saying na marami talagang magagandang shirt designs ang genre ng metal hehe. Nagugulat lang minsan friends ko kasi parang taliwas daw yung pinakikinggan kong musika sa personality ko. I'm usually quiet, introverted and nonconfrontational. |
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Post by defector on Aug 14, 2009 17:39:43 GMT 8
^ahahaha!same here.my non-metal friends usually thinks im not into metal.magugulat na lang sila at sasabihin."ikaw pala yang kumakanta sa banda mo?!wala sa istura mo."ehehehee!i always get that comment.and it always gives me a smile.
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Post by vil on Aug 14, 2009 17:42:37 GMT 8
Hahaha yeah I can totally relate with you guys. My girlfriend is fine by me listening to metal, she likes some of them like some traditional doom or something but not as extreme and unlistenable as oath of black blood, hehe. But I like the fact that she is trying to like it because she knows that this is probably where I spend most of my time on, she even buys me some badass records too sometimes, hell, she even bought me the Von die hard not too long ago when it came out. My family doesnt really mind me listening to this music basta hinde lang masyado malakas like xxxtian said, which is totally understandable. They are probably used to it after all these years. The only complain they have from me ay katulad den sa inyo, twing may makikita sila na packages at boxes na madalas sasabihan nila ako na I better save some money for the rainy days, I do, but actually saving it for the upcoming releases. hehe As for the public, Like alex, I wear band shirts everyday since those are the majority type of clothing I own. I rarely wear obscene shirts in public, yung band shirts lang na wlang slogan na offensive, I wear them at gigs tho, I just avoid having a heated conversation with some old white grandma about people "these days". Here's myself in disneyland wearing a kid friendly diocletian shirt. lol  |
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Post by dixiewhiskey on Aug 14, 2009 22:18:07 GMT 8
I work in a call center and being the only metalhead there and wearing all these shirts it scares and alienates people like most of you haha. Most of the time, the people I talk to are the janitors, security guards and the drunks. I like it that people can't understand you and will sometimes underestimate you, think of you stereotypically and it's a good chance to prove them wrong (most of the time you succeed in doing so). it's also fun to play the part of these stereotypes with ignorant people so they just leave you alone and avoid bothering you.
I have no problem with my family when it comes to metal. for the longest time my dad never questioned my music and even gave me money to splurge on booze, gigs and CD's/cassettes (when I didn't have a card back in the 90's he lent me his so I can order from Relapse hehe). One of my younger brothers listens to metal because of me. My mom used to lecture me about "being saved" after browsing through my stuff but now she understands... the only problem i've had was when a person from the other side of the neighborhood complained about the loud electric wizard playing at 2 am hehehe
It was a different story with my gf, one of the reasons why we split up is because i'm still a geek about it and spend a considerable amount on merch and records, religiously listen to metal, go and watch gigs and wear metal shirts etc. she wanted me to change and become a different person and could not accept me for who i am despite being devoted to her. you can't always win in life when you're a metalhead and you have to accept that
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Post by defector on Aug 15, 2009 2:19:36 GMT 8
^hahahaha!i agree with you man!!!some women are to self-centered when they can't understand what you are into.
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Post by idp on Aug 15, 2009 12:10:29 GMT 8
^ahahaha!same here.my non-metal friends usually thinks im not into metal.magugulat na lang sila at sasabihin."ikaw pala yang kumakanta sa banda mo?!wala sa istura mo."ehehehee!i always get that comment.and it always gives me a smile. Maybe because your non-metal friends thought that you are still a hip hopper as you previously said. lol  |
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Post by Maliboglent on Aug 15, 2009 12:27:21 GMT 8
I have no problems with my family when it comes to my listening metal music, pero pag mejo andito sila lahat eh syempre kaialngan ko din makisama kahit na hindi nila sabihing hinaan or patayin ko, eh ginagawa ko kasi alam ko naiistorbo din sila kahit papano.
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Post by madtyrant on Aug 15, 2009 12:57:58 GMT 8
As far as playing metal music goes, my mom doesn't bother me as she used to when I was younger. I guess she got used to it.
As for as my metal music collection, I don't get bothered with it any longer since I earn my own money and am able to give my share in the house expenses without fail.
In the office, the most frequent comment I'd get is that they didn't figure that I'd be a metalhead since I'm relatively clean cut and the only thing that gave my metal-ness away was my metal shirts.
As far as metal shirts, I'd have co-employees comment that I look like I always come from a gig because of my shirts.
My ex couldn't stand metal music and I'd just end up not playing any music at all when she was with me in the car. That's why she's an ex I guess.
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Post by Batdog on Aug 15, 2009 12:59:53 GMT 8
It's also fun to play the part of these stereotypes with ignorant people so they just leave you alone and avoid bothering you. but at the same time there are those who play the part specifically to attract attention. go figure.  lalo na ngayon uso ang maging troo, oldskool and elite. I have no problems with my family when it comes to my listening metal music, pero pag mejo andito sila lahat eh syempre kaialngan ko din makisama kahit na hindi nila sabihing hinaan or patayin ko, eh ginagawa ko kasi alam ko naiistorbo din sila kahit papano. oo naman respeto na lang din sa dapat irespeto. gaya nga ng sabi ni xxxtian, kahit naman tayo naiingayan din kapag biglang nagpasambulat yung iba ng martin nievera o kahit ano pa mang love song. |
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Post by idp on Aug 15, 2009 14:14:09 GMT 8
...In the office, the most frequent comment I'd get is that they didn't figure that I'd be a metalhead since I'm relatively clean cut and the only thing that gave my metal-ness away was my metal shirts. ...As far as metal shirts, I'd have co-employees comment that I look like I always come from a gig because of my shirts.... Which is what literally will happen if you go to the gig on September 12. Hahaha! Speaking of having a clean haircut. When I first attended a gig here in Singapore (Dismember), I noticed that there are few metalheads with long hair. I asked, and the locals said that it's because of their NS (National Service). If they are called in by the government for training, they have no choice, but to cut their hair. So it's pointless for some to grow their hair long. |
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Post by defector on Aug 15, 2009 14:39:45 GMT 8
^ahahaha!same here.my non-metal friends usually thinks im not into metal.magugulat na lang sila at sasabihin."ikaw pala yang kumakanta sa banda mo?!wala sa istura mo."ehehehee!i always get that comment.and it always gives me a smile. Maybe because your non-metal friends thought that you are still a hip hopper as you previously said. lol ahahahaa!i thought so too.i sometimes still listen to hip hop.but not the cheesy hip hop that flood the airwaves today. |
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Post by idp on Aug 15, 2009 14:43:55 GMT 8
Maybe because your non-metal friends thought that you are still a hip hopper as you previously said. lol ahahahaa!i thought so too.i sometimes still listen to hip hop.but not the cheesy hip hop that flood the airwaves today. lol |
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Post by eltorrente on Aug 15, 2009 15:12:50 GMT 8
Adding to my previous post, I like the reaction when people from my office (or from other places, for that matter) learn that I listen to metal. Like Defector, sabi nila di obvious from the way I look or dress most of the time. My college friends still like to make fun of me, though. lol.
As far as home goes, mas tolerant ang mga kasama ko ngayon compared to before. I just give consideration by not playing at high volume too much. Besides, nag-iingat din ako since humihina ang hearing ko lately.
I remember my ex getting spooked while looking at the covers of some of my CD's, but tolerating the music when she heard it.
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Post by madtyrant on Aug 15, 2009 16:31:43 GMT 8
I remember my ex commenting that most of the covers of my CDs had skulls on them. I didn't agree with her and then she told me to look at the CDs that I just bought - Testament's 'The Legacy' and Overkill's 'Years of Decay' - albums with skulls on the cover. It was only that point that I realized that indeed most metal covers had skulls in them! Funny and stupid it may seem but before that point, I hadn't realized that fact.
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